I know this might be too basic for you guys, but I feel it’s always good to reflect back to the basics no matter what level you are at. A strong foundation is the key to building yourself to the greatest heights. You can only build a house on 12 inches of concrete foundation. But you will need a 50 foot deep foundation to build a skyscraper.
Anyways, I was doing a consultation with a student and he asked me some questions about women and social value. He found my explanation really helpful and suggested that I posted it online. So below are some of my thoughts regarding women and social value.
Social value is of utmost importance to a woman. Why?
It all comes down to her social status. Women want what they can't have. They want to progress. Not regress. All of her life, Hollywood and shows like Lifestyles of the Rich, Famous and Beautiful have brain washed her into wanting something more for herself and showing her what she has been missing. To improve, or at least, maintain her social status, she would have to align herself with the highest value male. The best possible mate to not only father her babies, but to be able to take care of them as well.
Even though we are in modern times, we still socialize in tribes. We call them peer groups or rather friends. With each group of friend that we have, we want to be able to have their respect and acceptance. We face peer pressure with our friends to conform to the acceptable standards. Notice how blondes hang out with blonds. Hot women hang out with hot women. That commonality brings them together and bonds them as a social group. If you are not part of them, it is very difficult for them to allow you in. So with that as a foundation, let me explain my thoughts.
Some guys out there who are short, fat and ugly, to be frank, have a more difficult time than the taller, muscular, good looking guys. Why? Because that passive attraction will already be there based on their looks. It doesn't mean every woman would want to sleep with him. It just means that the girl will be more willing to give him some game time to talk and try to win her over. Even if she is physically attracted to him, if he can't build a connection or show that he could say more two words, she will lose interest.
But with a guy who is absolutely not her type, she would instantly disqualify or show disinterest to him if he tries even talk to her, much less hit on her. That's why the guys who are less fortunate in the gene pool have better results by going under the radar via indirect approach, etc to convey his personality and build attraction with his charm. But even still that might not be enough. Why?
There are certain types of girls out there, coincidentally really hot, who wouldn't give you the time of day if you didn't meet their looks or social status requirements. Even though they are saying, I can't date anyone under 6 feet tall, or I can't date a fat guy etc. This is not because she can't get attracted to you, even though you don't have her looks requirement. It just means she doesn't want to lose her social value by talking or associating with you. This all comes back to her social value. If she was seen in public with someone she perceives as having lower social status than herself, it would jeopardize her social value.
So for that reason, she won't give you any game time. Women know subconsciously, that even though they might not be physically attracted to him, they could get used to and fall for him. That's one reason why her girlfriends are there to help her cockblock the guys. They are her prescreening team. What’s the trick to over coming this?
Pre-Selection
You will have to game her friends. Both male and female. Once you win their acceptance, your social value grows in her eyes. When you win her friends over, her peer group adds social value points to you. If they like you, they wouldn't judge her or lower her social value points by dating a guy who is not socially accepted by their friends. But if you DON'T win her friends over, good luck getting any game time with her. If you do some how get some game time and get her to like you, good luck dealing with her friends pressuring her to drop you.
You've seen the movies. In High School, the jocks and cool kids hang out together and so do all the dorks of the school. The cheerleader would never give the dork a chance. But the dork does something cool and amazing and is acceptance by the whole school including the jocks and cool kids. Then all of the sudden, all the girls including the captain of the cheerleaders wants to date the dork. He won her peer group’s acceptance. He has social value. He became preselected. He is now desired.
I personally feel that pre-selection by a women's peer group is a MUCH higher attraction switch than having women around you. If you could go to a 5 set and win the entire target's friends over, you immediately earn yourself some game time with the target, no matter how fat, ugly or short you are. You have social value. Some rock stars, and actors are butt ugly. They get laid like crazy. They have no looks but they have plenty of social value. Women want to be with them, men want to be them. Social value is key to being attractive to the world!
Let's put it in the perspective of pickup and what you have been taught. You’ve heard it before, “Work the entire room.” Going into a club, peacocked, opening up sets and talking to everyone. The peacocking will get your noticed in the club. When people notice you, they see you socializing with everyone. Then you social value starts to build. And when you made your way around the club to open the hot blonde set in the back of the club, she would have already seen you and knows you have social value. Even if you are short, fat, ugly or simply not her type; you have social value. And that's all she needs talk to you. Sets easily opens when you have social value. Have high social value everywhere you go and she won't even notice that you are short, fat, broke or ugly.
"If you want the women of your dreams, you have to be the man of her dreams". -Asian Playboy
A women of her dreams is not necessarily a guy who is tall, dark, rich and handsome. It comes down to social value and acceptance. We as humans are social creatures. Being social and having social value is the key to advance socially. People like you, they accept you, they will want to associate with you. You associate with the right people, you will get the right things coming to you through association. Whether it's power, money or sex, every step up that social latter will require you to interact and deal with people. Work on yourself and develop those social skills that are needed. Not just to game a girl, but to game the world.
Game everyone you meet. Be the cool social guy that everyone likes. Then you will have opportunities just fall in your lap. People do business with people they like. Whether it's business, or anything relating to people. If they don't like you, they won't want to work with you. If they are forced to, they will never give you the best deal or truly want to help you. Be the guy that everyone would take their shirts of their backs for. That will enable you to have lots of social value. And social value will make you attractive to everyone!
But how do I start when I don't have any social value?
Be a value giver. A person of value leaves people better than they found them. Some traits of value that are socially valuable are:
1. Positive Energy
2. Positivity
3. Sense of Humor
4. Make people feel good
A guy with no value, going up to a group with the highest social value in the venue will be a value taker unless he has value to add to their lives. If he brings a magic trick or orders another bottle of alcohol for them, he will start to have some value. It doesn't mean it's enough value for them to allow him to stay. But if he is positive, makes them laugh and feel good about themselves. They will be more willing to keep him around. And if he really makes them feel good and enhance their positive experience when hanging out with him, they will do anything to keep him around since he is now highly valuable to them. Be that high value guy. Offer value. Don’t be the value taker.
Paris Hilton walks into a club, and they give her VIP table service FREE. The power of social value.
A bum asks you for a dollar you immediately say no. A guy in a nice tailored suit shows you a $100 dollar bill asks if you have change, you say no but will be more willing to give him a dollar. Why? Cause he is not asking or taking any value from you. In fact, having him in your social circle might possibility yield personal financial gain. So be a value giver. Give value and you will get value back. And that's how you game the world. Be the value giver. I'd like to believe that's the whole Tao of a true PUA. They game the world and give value to the everyone making the world a better place.
Alright fellow PUAs! You have a HUGE responsibility. With great power comes an even greater responsibility. So game on fellas!
QualityPUA
Bed The Girl.com
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Friday, March 7, 2008
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Comfort (Live Video Demos)
How to build deep rapport by future projecting.
How to get her to see you two as a couple by pair bonding.
How to get her to lower her inhibitions by role playing.
The importance of a heart felt story.
How to maintain her attraction during comfort and avoid being stuck in the friends’ zone.
How to use Pre Emptive Last Minute Resistance in comfort to prevent any sexual resistance or LMR.
How to lower her sexual inhibitions by getting her to follow her heart.
How to lower her sexual inhibitions by gettingt her to be passionate and live in the moment.
How to lower her sexual inhibitions by getting her to make her own decisions and not listen to her friends.
How to prevent her friends from cock blocking you.
How to get her be comfortable by lowering her inhibitions and get her sexuality to coming out.
How to peak her curiosity about having sex with you and make her want to have sex with you NOW!
How to use the Bed The Girl.com’s Routines to lower her inhibitions and arouse her at the same time.
Extraction (Live Video Demos)
How to lead her back to your place smoothly, effortlessly and without any objections.
What to do during transit time so that she won’t change her mind.
What to do to make her comfortable in your place.
How to use softeners to handle any of her objections.
How to smoothly lead her to your bed.
Logistics
The 3 logistical questions you MUST ask before you take her home.
The top 5 things you MUST have in your house in order to get laid.
How to use your place as your best wingman to get her in bed.
Optimizing your place for a smooth escalation
Escalation – Consisting of Mental and Physical Stimulation Techniques
(Live Video Demos)
The difference between an attraction kiss and a seduction kiss, and what most guys do wrong.
How to make the first move smoothly.
BedTheGirl’s Sexual Escalation Routines (Video Demos with live people)
Dining Experience (Turn her on in seconds)
BedTheGirl’s Blow Job Routine (Makes her want to put your cock in her mouth)
BedTheGirl’s Intense Arousal Routine (Combine it with physical escalation to make her cum before you even touch her crouch)
BedTheGirl’s Get Her Soaking Wet Routine (Get her to beg you for sex)
Fore Play/Arousal (Live Video Demos)
How to instantly arouse a woman in a matter of seconds.
How to properly perform an erotic sensual massage.
How to properly dirty talk to get her soaking wet.
How to properly pull her hair and send chills down her spine.
How to arouse her using your fingers.
How to arouse her with your kisses.
How to sexually stimulate her neck line.
How to turn the women on with proper breast play.
Highly arousable areas guys skip that true seducers never miss
Escalation Resistance Points (Live Video Demos))
How to take off her shirt when she resists.
How to take off her bra when she resists.
How to take off her pants when she resists.
How to remove her panties when she resists.
Last Minute Resistance(Live Video Demos)
How to properly use Freeze Outs to make her surrender herself to you.
How to properly Pace and Lead her objections and get her to convince herself she wants sex more than you do!
Sex (Live Video Demos)
How to Sexually Stimulate her Mentally during sex.
How to Sexually Stimulate her Physically during sex.
The 4 things you can do to be her greatest lover.
Three of the best positions that will make her cum fast during sex.
How to properly Sexually Dirty Talk and make her cum over and over again during sex.
How to spank a women properly.
How to eat pussy the BedTheGirl way.
How to make her cum by Finger Banging Her.
How to put on a condom on under 3 seconds using 1 hand.
How to properly go down on her.
How to get her to squirt in a matter of minutes.
How to get her to orgasm all night long.
Post Sex (Live Video Demos)
What to say to her after you are done to make her want more sex with you.
How to properly debrief her on her sexual experience with you.
What to do after you are done to prevent her from feeling any remorse.
How to get kick her out of your place the right way.
How to get her to have threesomes with you.
How to get her to have anal sex with you.
How to get her to be cool with the idea of you having sex with other women.
How to get her to pay you to have sex with her.
How to get her to agree to take nude pictures and allow you to video tape her.
How to make sex good for both of you for as long as you are together!
Wednesday, March 5, 2008
Accelerated Comfort using Future Projection
Many of you guys know this but it is good to go back to basics from time to time. It can always help you reflect and see things in a different light. Below is a routine that I created using Future Projections and Pair bonding to help achieve deep levels of comfort within a short period of time. Check it out!
The trick to having little to no LMR is comfort. Comfort is crucial to getting laid! The more comfort you build, the less LMR you will get. The game is truly played in comfort. Many girls makes the guy wait a little before having sex with them mainly because they are not comfortable with the idea of having sex with the guy. That is why it is so important for you to not only have rapport but sexual rapport and build a solid connection with her. If you build her sexual comfort effectively, there will be no time limit on how soon you can have sex with her.
Future Projecting is a powerful tool that can greatly increase her comfort level with you. When done properly, it anchors strong feelings of comfort that can only otherwise be achieved by spending long periods of time with each other; it brings that feeling into the present moment.
Below is an example routine of how to properly future project and use pair bonding for a one-two punch.
"You really have to go with me to my friend’s beach house in Mexico with me! It will be so much fun! Imagine you and me lying on the beach in the warm sun relaxing sipping on a cold tall glass of pina colada listening to the waves of the ocean and feeling the cool breeze flowing through our hair. Can you feel the warm sand between your toes? I can see it now! I notice you need more sun block on your shoulders and back so I help you put some on like this. (Then demonstrate as if you were going to put sun block on her shoulders and back).
“Then I noticed how tensed you are so I give you a slow relaxing massage and put you to sleep in my arms. Wouldn’t that be amazing?! Then I later we can go horseback riding down the beach and watch the sunset as we head back for a dinner that is waiting for us on the patio. There will be tiki torches and sweet bottles of wine waiting for us. Then we can go and dance on the sand in the moonlight all night. (Grab her and embrace her like you are slow dancing) and get her to feel your touch and imagine herself actually there with you."
To add a Buying Temperature spike you can also say:
"Wait! You’re not a cheap drunk are you? (do a light push by letting her go of the embrace) Because with all of that wine, you will be stepping on my toes and falling all over the place. So…… I will have to carry you back to the bedroom like this. (Then pick her up and carry her for a few seconds.) This will get her out of the trance and pump up her BT.
Then bring her back into the trance for even a deeper added effect (Fractionation).
Then as you are lying there in my arms, I am holding you close and gently move your hair to the side and slowly caress your soft beautiful skin with the back of my fingers. (Move her hair out of her face and lightly caress her face with the back of your hands and fingers. You can go in for a kiss at this time if you wish. Or you can get close to get her to anticipate it and pull away to tease her and build some sexual tension. Logistically, you must be close to her in order to have a smooth transition."
Qualify her to get her to work to earn your right to go with you.
"But I am not sure if that is something you would enjoy. Do you like spending relaxing weekends on the beach with someone special to you?"
Can you see how powerful the routine can be? It is effective on several levels.
1. It gets her to imagine spending time with you in the future
2. And if she was to lie on the beach next to you some place far away, it means she’s already really comfortable with you. Weekend get-a-ways are usually associated with couples spending intimate time together. She will imagine spending time with you as a couple. Also, lying on a beach in a bikini implies that she has a certain level of comfort in exposing her body to you. Also rooming with you in a hotel conveys more pair bonding.
3. Also at the end of the routine, get her to accept your frame by verbal confirmation. It helps solidify her acceptance in her mind.
4. For increased effectiveness, ask her to describe details of the future projeciton to you. If she can see herself there with you, then she can see you in her life down the line. And that can build some serious comfort!
5. Also, doing the push pull will help maintain attraction and eliminate the creepy vibe. It will also help her fractionate.
6. You are also generating attraction and sexual arousal at the same time by leading her imagination and showing dominance by manipulating her body and carrying her. It also helps her feel more comfortable with your physical touch.
7. With this routine, you can bring it up later in the interaction and joke about it. You can say, in a playful way, “If you don’t behave yourself, I’m not going to take you horseback riding with me…Don’t force me to take my sugar momma with me?!”
Next time, I will post my Pairing bonding Instant Arousal Routine.
QualityPUA
Asian Playboy Intern Coach
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The trick to having little to no LMR is comfort. Comfort is crucial to getting laid! The more comfort you build, the less LMR you will get. The game is truly played in comfort. Many girls makes the guy wait a little before having sex with them mainly because they are not comfortable with the idea of having sex with the guy. That is why it is so important for you to not only have rapport but sexual rapport and build a solid connection with her. If you build her sexual comfort effectively, there will be no time limit on how soon you can have sex with her.
Future Projecting is a powerful tool that can greatly increase her comfort level with you. When done properly, it anchors strong feelings of comfort that can only otherwise be achieved by spending long periods of time with each other; it brings that feeling into the present moment.
Below is an example routine of how to properly future project and use pair bonding for a one-two punch.
"You really have to go with me to my friend’s beach house in Mexico with me! It will be so much fun! Imagine you and me lying on the beach in the warm sun relaxing sipping on a cold tall glass of pina colada listening to the waves of the ocean and feeling the cool breeze flowing through our hair. Can you feel the warm sand between your toes? I can see it now! I notice you need more sun block on your shoulders and back so I help you put some on like this. (Then demonstrate as if you were going to put sun block on her shoulders and back).
“Then I noticed how tensed you are so I give you a slow relaxing massage and put you to sleep in my arms. Wouldn’t that be amazing?! Then I later we can go horseback riding down the beach and watch the sunset as we head back for a dinner that is waiting for us on the patio. There will be tiki torches and sweet bottles of wine waiting for us. Then we can go and dance on the sand in the moonlight all night. (Grab her and embrace her like you are slow dancing) and get her to feel your touch and imagine herself actually there with you."
To add a Buying Temperature spike you can also say:
"Wait! You’re not a cheap drunk are you? (do a light push by letting her go of the embrace) Because with all of that wine, you will be stepping on my toes and falling all over the place. So…… I will have to carry you back to the bedroom like this. (Then pick her up and carry her for a few seconds.) This will get her out of the trance and pump up her BT.
Then bring her back into the trance for even a deeper added effect (Fractionation).
Then as you are lying there in my arms, I am holding you close and gently move your hair to the side and slowly caress your soft beautiful skin with the back of my fingers. (Move her hair out of her face and lightly caress her face with the back of your hands and fingers. You can go in for a kiss at this time if you wish. Or you can get close to get her to anticipate it and pull away to tease her and build some sexual tension. Logistically, you must be close to her in order to have a smooth transition."
Qualify her to get her to work to earn your right to go with you.
"But I am not sure if that is something you would enjoy. Do you like spending relaxing weekends on the beach with someone special to you?"
Can you see how powerful the routine can be? It is effective on several levels.
1. It gets her to imagine spending time with you in the future
2. And if she was to lie on the beach next to you some place far away, it means she’s already really comfortable with you. Weekend get-a-ways are usually associated with couples spending intimate time together. She will imagine spending time with you as a couple. Also, lying on a beach in a bikini implies that she has a certain level of comfort in exposing her body to you. Also rooming with you in a hotel conveys more pair bonding.
3. Also at the end of the routine, get her to accept your frame by verbal confirmation. It helps solidify her acceptance in her mind.
4. For increased effectiveness, ask her to describe details of the future projeciton to you. If she can see herself there with you, then she can see you in her life down the line. And that can build some serious comfort!
5. Also, doing the push pull will help maintain attraction and eliminate the creepy vibe. It will also help her fractionate.
6. You are also generating attraction and sexual arousal at the same time by leading her imagination and showing dominance by manipulating her body and carrying her. It also helps her feel more comfortable with your physical touch.
7. With this routine, you can bring it up later in the interaction and joke about it. You can say, in a playful way, “If you don’t behave yourself, I’m not going to take you horseback riding with me…Don’t force me to take my sugar momma with me?!”
Next time, I will post my Pairing bonding Instant Arousal Routine.
QualityPUA
Asian Playboy Intern Coach
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Tuesday, March 4, 2008
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Saturday, February 23, 2008
Update on me.
Hey guys! I know I haven't been posting for a while. After getting swamped with work and having a flu for over a week, I couldn't catch up with my obligations to loyal readers. But stay tuned. I will take care of you guys soon!
The 4-h Workweek by Timothy Ferriss
While being sick, I finally had some time to catch up on my reading list. Man this book changed my life! Along with Rich Dad Poor Dad and The Game. This book really shattered my reality! So therefore, I have been busy lately coming up with a new business concept.
BedTheGirl.com
It's basically a site that I designed to help guys specifically with their end game. Known as "The Closer", my LMR techniques have been proven time and time again to get you guys laid! Even with Virgins!
Here, I will divule all my secret routines and techniques that I personally use to achieve success rates as high 90%. Via video, audio and articles, The Sexual Accelerator Technique™ will take your game to a completely new level! Everything is completely free for now. I will be charging a subscription based service later. If you guys mention you are blog read, I'll hook you guys up with a special so you guys could have VIP exclusive access. So check out the site and show some love! I also created a blog. Check it out for updates on the site. I'm still working on it but plan to go live packed with content by March 1st. Tell me what you guys think!
The 4-h Workweek by Timothy Ferriss
While being sick, I finally had some time to catch up on my reading list. Man this book changed my life! Along with Rich Dad Poor Dad and The Game. This book really shattered my reality! So therefore, I have been busy lately coming up with a new business concept.
BedTheGirl.com
It's basically a site that I designed to help guys specifically with their end game. Known as "The Closer", my LMR techniques have been proven time and time again to get you guys laid! Even with Virgins!
Here, I will divule all my secret routines and techniques that I personally use to achieve success rates as high 90%. Via video, audio and articles, The Sexual Accelerator Technique™ will take your game to a completely new level! Everything is completely free for now. I will be charging a subscription based service later. If you guys mention you are blog read, I'll hook you guys up with a special so you guys could have VIP exclusive access. So check out the site and show some love! I also created a blog. Check it out for updates on the site. I'm still working on it but plan to go live packed with content by March 1st. Tell me what you guys think!
Wednesday, February 13, 2008
Warrior King Society
I recently joined the Warrior King Society. I was more interested in his ideas about business and basically having the freedom to live anywhere in the world, and at the same time, make a lot of money passively. At $100 per month, I was skeptical, but after I signed up and received the first newsletter, I was sold! I wanted to join a group where I can network wth other like minded individuals on finance and personal freedom.
Imagine yourself living anywhere you want in the world and having enough income generated so that you don't work. You can do pickup all day or whatever you'd like to do with your free time. Wouldn't that be awesome? So check it out if you guys are interested. The link is below.
Captain Jack's Warrior King Society
Imagine yourself living anywhere you want in the world and having enough income generated so that you don't work. You can do pickup all day or whatever you'd like to do with your free time. Wouldn't that be awesome? So check it out if you guys are interested. The link is below.
Captain Jack's Warrior King Society
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