Thoughts on Women and Social Value

I know this might be too basic for you guys, but I feel it’s always good to reflect back to the basics no matter what level you are at. A strong foundation is the key to building yourself to the greatest heights. You can only build a house on 12 inches of concrete foundation. But you will need a 50 foot deep foundation to build a skyscraper.

Anyways, I was doing a consultation with a student and he asked me some questions about women and social value. He found my explanation really helpful and suggested that I posted it online. So below are some of my thoughts regarding women and social value.

Social value is of utmost importance to a woman. Why?

It all comes down to her social status. Women want what they can't have. They want to progress. Not regress. All of her life, Hollywood and shows like Lifestyles of the Rich, Famous and Beautiful have brain washed her into wanting something more for herself and showing her what she has been missing. To improve, or at least, maintain her social status, she would have to align herself with the highest value male. The best possible mate to not only father her babies, but to be able to take care of them as well.

Even though we are in modern times, we still socialize in tribes. We call them peer groups or rather friends. With each group of friend that we have, we want to be able to have their respect and acceptance. We face peer pressure with our friends to conform to the acceptable standards. Notice how blondes hang out with blonds. Hot women hang out with hot women. That commonality brings them together and bonds them as a social group. If you are not part of them, it is very difficult for them to allow you in. So with that as a foundation, let me explain my thoughts.

Some guys out there who are short, fat and ugly, to be frank, have a more difficult time than the taller, muscular, good looking guys. Why? Because that passive attraction will already be there based on their looks. It doesn't mean every woman would want to sleep with him. It just means that the girl will be more willing to give him some game time to talk and try to win her over. Even if she is physically attracted to him, if he can't build a connection or show that he could say more two words, she will lose interest.

But with a guy who is absolutely not her type, she would instantly disqualify or show disinterest to him if he tries even talk to her, much less hit on her. That's why the guys who are less fortunate in the gene pool have better results by going under the radar via indirect approach, etc to convey his personality and build attraction with his charm. But even still that might not be enough. Why?

There are certain types of girls out there, coincidentally really hot, who wouldn't give you the time of day if you didn't meet their looks or social status requirements. Even though they are saying, I can't date anyone under 6 feet tall, or I can't date a fat guy etc. This is not because she can't get attracted to you, even though you don't have her looks requirement. It just means she doesn't want to lose her social value by talking or associating with you. This all comes back to her social value. If she was seen in public with someone she perceives as having lower social status than herself, it would jeopardize her social value.

So for that reason, she won't give you any game time. Women know subconsciously, that even though they might not be physically attracted to him, they could get used to and fall for him. That's one reason why her girlfriends are there to help her cockblock the guys. They are her prescreening team. What’s the trick to over coming this?

Pre-Selection
You will have to game her friends. Both male and female. Once you win their acceptance, your social value grows in her eyes. When you win her friends over, her peer group adds social value points to you. If they like you, they wouldn't judge her or lower her social value points by dating a guy who is not socially accepted by their friends. But if you DON'T win her friends over, good luck getting any game time with her. If you do some how get some game time and get her to like you, good luck dealing with her friends pressuring her to drop you.

You've seen the movies. In High School, the jocks and cool kids hang out together and so do all the dorks of the school. The cheerleader would never give the dork a chance. But the dork does something cool and amazing and is acceptance by the whole school including the jocks and cool kids. Then all of the sudden, all the girls including the captain of the cheerleaders wants to date the dork. He won her peer group’s acceptance. He has social value. He became preselected. He is now desired.

I personally feel that pre-selection by a women's peer group is a MUCH higher attraction switch than having women around you. If you could go to a 5 set and win the entire target's friends over, you immediately earn yourself some game time with the target, no matter how fat, ugly or short you are. You have social value. Some rock stars, and actors are butt ugly. They get laid like crazy. They have no looks but they have plenty of social value. Women want to be with them, men want to be them. Social value is key to being attractive to the world!

Let's put it in the perspective of pickup and what you have been taught. You’ve heard it before, “Work the entire room.” Going into a club, peacocked, opening up sets and talking to everyone. The peacocking will get your noticed in the club. When people notice you, they see you socializing with everyone. Then you social value starts to build. And when you made your way around the club to open the hot blonde set in the back of the club, she would have already seen you and knows you have social value. Even if you are short, fat, ugly or simply not her type; you have social value. And that's all she needs talk to you. Sets easily opens when you have social value. Have high social value everywhere you go and she won't even notice that you are short, fat, broke or ugly.

"If you want the women of your dreams, you have to be the man of her dreams". -Asian Playboy

A women of her dreams is not necessarily a guy who is tall, dark, rich and handsome. It comes down to social value and acceptance. We as humans are social creatures. Being social and having social value is the key to advance socially. People like you, they accept you, they will want to associate with you. You associate with the right people, you will get the right things coming to you through association. Whether it's power, money or sex, every step up that social latter will require you to interact and deal with people. Work on yourself and develop those social skills that are needed. Not just to game a girl, but to game the world.

Game everyone you meet. Be the cool social guy that everyone likes. Then you will have opportunities just fall in your lap. People do business with people they like. Whether it's business, or anything relating to people. If they don't like you, they won't want to work with you. If they are forced to, they will never give you the best deal or truly want to help you. Be the guy that everyone would take their shirts of their backs for. That will enable you to have lots of social value. And social value will make you attractive to everyone!

But how do I start when I don't have any social value?
Be a value giver. A person of value leaves people better than they found them. Some traits of value that are socially valuable are:

1. Positive Energy
2. Positivity
3. Sense of Humor
4. Make people feel good

A guy with no value, going up to a group with the highest social value in the venue will be a value taker unless he has value to add to their lives. If he brings a magic trick or orders another bottle of alcohol for them, he will start to have some value. It doesn't mean it's enough value for them to allow him to stay. But if he is positive, makes them laugh and feel good about themselves. They will be more willing to keep him around. And if he really makes them feel good and enhance their positive experience when hanging out with him, they will do anything to keep him around since he is now highly valuable to them. Be that high value guy. Offer value. Don’t be the value taker.

Paris Hilton walks into a club, and they give her VIP table service FREE. The power of social value.

A bum asks you for a dollar you immediately say no. A guy in a nice tailored suit shows you a $100 dollar bill asks if you have change, you say no but will be more willing to give him a dollar. Why? Cause he is not asking or taking any value from you. In fact, having him in your social circle might possibility yield personal financial gain. So be a value giver. Give value and you will get value back. And that's how you game the world. Be the value giver. I'd like to believe that's the whole Tao of a true PUA. They game the world and give value to the everyone making the world a better place.

Alright fellow PUAs! You have a HUGE responsibility. With great power comes an even greater responsibility. So game on fellas!


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