Quality's - ABC of Attraction Weekly Tip #3

Weekly tip #3

“Bitch!! Where ma money?!” How to pay. The gangsta way!



When starting out in the community, I was bombarded and overwhelmed with so many theories, routines, and rules. I went out and tried almost everything while not really understanding the basic concepts and how to apply them. Not fully understanding the concepts and how it applies resulted to me being humbled and humiliated on many occasions. Boy did I pay my dues!!!



One concept generally misunderstood is the concept of not paying for her. Supplication. As Ross Jefferies says, “Those who supplicates…….masturbates!” Generally, you wouldn’t want to offer her a drink to talk to her or pay for her dinner to get her come out with you. But due to society programming, there are scenarios that are appropriate to pay for her and if you don’t, it can make her feel awkward and uncomfortable. All that hard work to building comfort and connection is now in jeopardy because you’re a cheapo. So to give you guys some ways you can pay for the ladies while avoiding the supplication traps and a date with Rosie Palmer and her 5 sisters, read on!



Buying her drinks

Tell her, “I feel like getting a drink, come with me!” If she complies, reward her for being a good girl. Order your drink then turn around and say, “What would you like to drink?” This conveys that you want to get a drink for yourself and asked her to come along. And since she complied, you are a cool guy and offer her one too. That’s a completely different frame from, “Can I buy you a drink.” The latter shows that you are offering her a drink and implies that you want to buy her time so that she will hopefully be nice and allow you to talk to her a little longer.



Remember, men are providers after all so you will need to demonstrate that you can provide for her if needed. Do this only if she is a good girl and not to win her over with your money. I’ve had many occasions when I could have gotten some action if only I were able to get the voice of “Don’t ever buy her a drink” out of my head and use the proper framing for it when I did. Remember everything you learn is a guideline. Not a rule. Understand the concept and theory, and be sure you know how to apply it.



Got it? Let’s try it again. Here’s another example.



Paying for dinner the AFC way

Taking her to dinner as the main part of the date and paying for her.



Paying for dinner, the PUA way.

“Hey I’m hungry! I want to grab a bite to eat.” I would also take the lead and try to order for her by making recommendations. Because YOU wanted to eat and you did all the ordering, it’s only fair to pay. The same is expected even with your buddies. What you can also do for good measure, is when the check comes out, grab the check and tell her, “I got this one, you can get dessert.” Even if she doesn’t fight or offer to pay, it will set the frame that it’s not going to be a free ride for her and that she will need to invest some funds later if she want any more of you.



On a side note, encourage sharing for good pair bonding measure. i.e. “Let’s share an appetizer and an entrée. They make the best calamari here. And the spaghetti is to die for. You cool with that?” The purpose with getting her confirmation is to show that you can be a man and take the lead, but at the same time, you respect her input. Also, you make sure she isn’t allergic to any of the food. The cheese on that spaghetti will guarantee some ass if she’s lactose intolerant.….Smelly ass! :D



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