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Accelerated Comfort using Future Projection

Many of you guys know this but it is good to go back to basics from time to time. It can always help you reflect and see things in a different light. Below is a routine that I created using Future Projections and Pair bonding to help achieve deep levels of comfort within a short period of time. Check it out!

The trick to having little to no LMR is comfort. Comfort is crucial to getting laid! The more comfort you build, the less LMR you will get. The game is truly played in comfort. Many girls makes the guy wait a little before having sex with them mainly because they are not comfortable with the idea of having sex with the guy. That is why it is so important for you to not only have rapport but sexual rapport and build a solid connection with her. If you build her sexual comfort effectively, there will be no time limit on how soon you can have sex with her.

Future Projecting is a powerful tool that can greatly increase her comfort level with you. When done properly, it anchors strong feelings of comfort that can only otherwise be achieved by spending long periods of time with each other; it brings that feeling into the present moment.

Below is an example routine of how to properly future project and use pair bonding for a one-two punch.

"You really have to go with me to my friend’s beach house in Mexico with me! It will be so much fun! Imagine you and me lying on the beach in the warm sun relaxing sipping on a cold tall glass of pina colada listening to the waves of the ocean and feeling the cool breeze flowing through our hair. Can you feel the warm sand between your toes? I can see it now! I notice you need more sun block on your shoulders and back so I help you put some on like this. (Then demonstrate as if you were going to put sun block on her shoulders and back).

“Then I noticed how tensed you are so I give you a slow relaxing massage and put you to sleep in my arms. Wouldn’t that be amazing?! Then I later we can go horseback riding down the beach and watch the sunset as we head back for a dinner that is waiting for us on the patio. There will be tiki torches and sweet bottles of wine waiting for us. Then we can go and dance on the sand in the moonlight all night. (Grab her and embrace her like you are slow dancing) and get her to feel your touch and imagine herself actually there with you."

To add a Buying Temperature spike you can also say:

"Wait! You’re not a cheap drunk are you? (do a light push by letting her go of the embrace) Because with all of that wine, you will be stepping on my toes and falling all over the place. So…… I will have to carry you back to the bedroom like this. (Then pick her up and carry her for a few seconds.) This will get her out of the trance and pump up her BT.
Then bring her back into the trance for even a deeper added effect (Fractionation).

Then as you are lying there in my arms, I am holding you close and gently move your hair to the side and slowly caress your soft beautiful skin with the back of my fingers. (Move her hair out of her face and lightly caress her face with the back of your hands and fingers. You can go in for a kiss at this time if you wish. Or you can get close to get her to anticipate it and pull away to tease her and build some sexual tension. Logistically, you must be close to her in order to have a smooth transition."

Qualify her to get her to work to earn your right to go with you.

"But I am not sure if that is something you would enjoy. Do you like spending relaxing weekends on the beach with someone special to you?"
Can you see how powerful the routine can be? It is effective on several levels.

1. It gets her to imagine spending time with you in the future

2. And if she was to lie on the beach next to you some place far away, it means she’s already really comfortable with you. Weekend get-a-ways are usually associated with couples spending intimate time together. She will imagine spending time with you as a couple. Also, lying on a beach in a bikini implies that she has a certain level of comfort in exposing her body to you. Also rooming with you in a hotel conveys more pair bonding.

3. Also at the end of the routine, get her to accept your frame by verbal confirmation. It helps solidify her acceptance in her mind.

4. For increased effectiveness, ask her to describe details of the future projeciton to you. If she can see herself there with you, then she can see you in her life down the line. And that can build some serious comfort!

5. Also, doing the push pull will help maintain attraction and eliminate the creepy vibe. It will also help her fractionate.

6. You are also generating attraction and sexual arousal at the same time by leading her imagination and showing dominance by manipulating her body and carrying her. It also helps her feel more comfortable with your physical touch.

7. With this routine, you can bring it up later in the interaction and joke about it. You can say, in a playful way, “If you don’t behave yourself, I’m not going to take you horseback riding with me…Don’t force me to take my sugar momma with me?!”

Next time, I will post my Pairing bonding Instant Arousal Routine.

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Hey guys! I know I haven't been posting for a while. After getting swamped with work and having a flu for over a week, I couldn't catch up with my obligations to loyal readers. But stay tuned. I will take care of you guys soon!

The 4-h Workweek by Timothy Ferriss
While being sick, I finally had some time to catch up on my reading list. Man this book changed my life! Along with Rich Dad Poor Dad and The Game. This book really shattered my reality! So therefore, I have been busy lately coming up with a new business concept.

BedTheGirl.com
It's basically a site that I designed to help guys specifically with their end game. Known as "The Closer", my LMR techniques have been proven time and time again to get you guys laid! Even with Virgins!

Here, I will divule all my secret routines and techniques that I personally use to achieve success rates as high 90%. Via video, audio and articles, The Sexual Accelerator Technique™ will take your game to a completely new level! Everything is completely free for now. I will be charging a subscription based service later. If you guys mention you are blog read, I'll hook you guys up with a special so you guys could have VIP exclusive access. So check out the site and show some love! I also created a blog. Check it out for updates on the site. I'm still working on it but plan to go live packed with content by March 1st. Tell me what you guys think!

Warrior King Society

I recently joined the Warrior King Society. I was more interested in his ideas about business and basically having the freedom to live anywhere in the world, and at the same time, make a lot of money passively. At $100 per month, I was skeptical, but after I signed up and received the first newsletter, I was sold! I wanted to join a group where I can network wth other like minded individuals on finance and personal freedom.

Imagine yourself living anywhere you want in the world and having enough income generated so that you don't work. You can do pickup all day or whatever you'd like to do with your free time. Wouldn't that be awesome? So check it out if you guys are interested. The link is below.

Captain Jack's Warrior King Society

Real Busy with work..

.....so I haven't had a chance to post my weekly tip #4. I will do so by this sunday so stay tuned. Also, I joined Captain Jack's Warrior King Society. The first few news letters blew me away. It talks about money and how you can get away with just working a few hours a week and make more money that you are making now. You should definately check it out if you get a chance. His blog link is captainjackpua.blogspot.com. I've also added his blog link to my roster.

New blog look....

My old layout was a quick blog setup so not too much time and thought was put into it. So since I am still up and can't fall asleep, I might as well do something productive. So introducing Quality's new blog look!!!

I know... It's kind of simple and plain. I just hate going to those blogs where you have to highlight the text just to be able to read the content. This layout is simple yet functional. Besides, I'm still new to blogging. Let me know what you guys think!

Quality's - ABC of Attraction Weekly Tip #3

Weekly tip #3

“Bitch!! Where ma money?!” How to pay. The gangsta way!



When starting out in the community, I was bombarded and overwhelmed with so many theories, routines, and rules. I went out and tried almost everything while not really understanding the basic concepts and how to apply them. Not fully understanding the concepts and how it applies resulted to me being humbled and humiliated on many occasions. Boy did I pay my dues!!!



One concept generally misunderstood is the concept of not paying for her. Supplication. As Ross Jefferies says, “Those who supplicates…….masturbates!” Generally, you wouldn’t want to offer her a drink to talk to her or pay for her dinner to get her come out with you. But due to society programming, there are scenarios that are appropriate to pay for her and if you don’t, it can make her feel awkward and uncomfortable. All that hard work to building comfort and connection is now in jeopardy because you’re a cheapo. So to give you guys some ways you can pay for the ladies while avoiding the supplication traps and a date with Rosie Palmer and her 5 sisters, read on!



Buying her drinks

Tell her, “I feel like getting a drink, come with me!” If she complies, reward her for being a good girl. Order your drink then turn around and say, “What would you like to drink?” This conveys that you want to get a drink for yourself and asked her to come along. And since she complied, you are a cool guy and offer her one too. That’s a completely different frame from, “Can I buy you a drink.” The latter shows that you are offering her a drink and implies that you want to buy her time so that she will hopefully be nice and allow you to talk to her a little longer.



Remember, men are providers after all so you will need to demonstrate that you can provide for her if needed. Do this only if she is a good girl and not to win her over with your money. I’ve had many occasions when I could have gotten some action if only I were able to get the voice of “Don’t ever buy her a drink” out of my head and use the proper framing for it when I did. Remember everything you learn is a guideline. Not a rule. Understand the concept and theory, and be sure you know how to apply it.



Got it? Let’s try it again. Here’s another example.



Paying for dinner the AFC way

Taking her to dinner as the main part of the date and paying for her.



Paying for dinner, the PUA way.

“Hey I’m hungry! I want to grab a bite to eat.” I would also take the lead and try to order for her by making recommendations. Because YOU wanted to eat and you did all the ordering, it’s only fair to pay. The same is expected even with your buddies. What you can also do for good measure, is when the check comes out, grab the check and tell her, “I got this one, you can get dessert.” Even if she doesn’t fight or offer to pay, it will set the frame that it’s not going to be a free ride for her and that she will need to invest some funds later if she want any more of you.



On a side note, encourage sharing for good pair bonding measure. i.e. “Let’s share an appetizer and an entrée. They make the best calamari here. And the spaghetti is to die for. You cool with that?” The purpose with getting her confirmation is to show that you can be a man and take the lead, but at the same time, you respect her input. Also, you make sure she isn’t allergic to any of the food. The cheese on that spaghetti will guarantee some ass if she’s lactose intolerant.….Smelly ass! :D



Be sure to check back for next week’s tip of the week. For more tips and information about my highly reviewed phone consultation, feel free to check out by blog at qualitypua.blogspot.com or send me an email at quality@abcofattraction.com.

Quality's - ABC of Attraction Weekly Tip #2

Quality’s - Sexual Tension and Dominance routine a.k.a. “The Panty Soaker”

Here it is guys! What peaked your curiosity for weeks is now being revealed! I am about to reveal my “money” Quality’s Sexual Tension and Dominance routine a.k.a. “The Panty Soaker” (As mentioned in the Quality’s 100% Successful LMR Post).

Be careful when using it because it can turn her on so much that she will take serious advantage of you! You’ve gotten fair warning!

When you are at the extraction location, take her hand and lead her to the bedroom or anywhere that you plan to have the LMR battle. It is a good idea to ground it with something like “Come with me.(Reach out your hand) I want to show you my horoscope book. Let’s see if we are compatible.” Chick crack works best.

Then as you walk her through the room, apply Quality’s The Panty Soaker. One thing to note is that you should have already given her an attraction kiss or have some sexual tension establish. Pre-LMR should have long been started.

Quality’s The Panty Soaker.
As you walk, lead her by the hand to your room. Close the door behind you slightly leaving it opened 2 to 5 inches. Then stop and pull her towards you and give her a long passionate kiss. Then make out with her for a while and make sure the kiss is a sexual kiss. Then as she gets more and more turned on, hold her tight and turn her around. Back her up against the door with one hand on the back of her lower head (to absorb impact). Then push your body against hers and slam her against the door. Slam it moderately hard. It won’t hurt her since the slightly opened door will absorb the impact. Make sure you kiss more passionately right after you slam her as you moan and make sexual noises. Make out some more. Then with the hand behind her head, dig it deep under her hair and grab a hand full of hair by the roots and pull slowly and firmly downward. If you do it right, it should look like a scene in the movies when a women emerges from the water with her head tilted up towards the sky. I make a dramatic moan at that point. I start kissing down the neck and stop where the neck meets the shoulders. Dig deep with your teeth and lips into that crevice and bite firming. Bite a few notches below breaking the skin. You will be surprise how much pain that area can take. Make elaborate moan noises at that point.

This is my favorite part:
At the point of peak arousal, I pull away and tell her we should stop/slow down and I break away walking towards the bed/book shelf etc. This is an example of how APB’s Hot/Cold could be applied before hand. It will leave her on a high note and wanting more. She will usually follow you towards the bed since she will want some more. Whether she follows you or not (I say something witty to her i.e. “Oh you want more? You’re in trouble little girl!”, I will then pick her up and toss her on the bed. You then have two options at that point. You can leave her on her back or turn her over so that she is laying on her stomach, then straddle her. Pin both of her arms down at the wrist with your hands and move very slowly towards her and lightly touch your lips while blowing warm air around her face, ear, neck and shoulders. Kiss, lick and bite accordingly. I personally like to start with her on her back. Turn her on, then turn her over. That way, I can unbuckle her bra strap while biting and kissing her neck and back. Women get highly aroused while biting of the back of her neck and lower head. Yes you might have hair in your teeth but it will drive her crazy! Then start getting ready for some fun!

Why it works: Women are naturally submissive, just as a man’s nature is to be dominant. Men gets turned on seeing a women with feminine features such as big boobs, hip/waist ratio and butts, women gets turn on by a man making her submissive. They can’t help it. When you demonstrate those key attraction switches which are taking the lead and dominance, she can’t help but to be turned on by your actions. There is something totally dominant about slamming a girl against the wall that drives her crazy. Furthermore, the dominance combo of hair pulling, neck biting, tossing and straddling just tops it off. That’s an example of letting your primal instincts come out. It is what we call cave manning. If the sexual tension was well established, then you can feel her warmth and wetness through her panties. They are usually soaking wet by the time you throw them on the bed. I once had a girl orgasm as I pinned her down as I dry humped her while telling her that she can’t do anything about what I am about to do to her and to quit resisting me because I know how much she loves it.

This routine will allow you to stimulate her physically and mainly psychologically. As I said before, the psychological is what will really turn her on. The feeling of surrender to a woman is highly arousing. The Quality’s Panty Soaker gives you the one-two punch you need to get her primed and ready so that you can unleash your animalistic urges on her.

Be sure to check back for next week’s tip of the week. For more tips and information about my highly reviewed phone consultation, feel free to check out by blog at qualitypua.blogspot.com or send me an email at quality@abcofattraction.com.


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Quality - ABCs of Attraction's Tip of the Week #1

Getting into the game, I came up with many tips and tricks that have helped me with my game. So to help my fellow PUAs out, I will post a weekly tip to help with your game. Feel free to use the tips and report back with any successes or feedback. These tips have been 100% field tested and proven by yours truly!

Weekly tip #1
While upselling to extract an HB from a club or get a Day2, try to focus the upsell on her senses and emotions. For instance, “I know a place that makes the best waffles in town. It comes out hot and crispy on the outside but warm and moist in the inside. And their homemade maple syrup that is to die for! Mmmmm….. I’m getting hungry! Come get some waffles with me! That is much better than “We are going to Denny’s. You should come along.”

Another example is: “I found a really cool coffee house the other day that makes the best cup of coffee. It’s a really cozy place with local artist paintings and a huge fire place. All their coffee beans are imported so the moment you step in, you can smell the fresh ground coffee in the air and the first sip tastes just as good as the last! We can relax on their warm comfy couches and continue our conversation there.” Isn’t that better than “You got to meet me up for coffee sometime”?

So when you ground the number close with a day two, or get her to extract with you, I found it most successful when I anchor some positive emotions and senses. It also greatly minimizes my flaking.

Be sure to check back for next week’s tip of the week. For more tips and information about my highly reviewed phone consultation, feel free to check out by blog at qualitypua.blogspot.com or send me an email at quality@abcofattraction.com.



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ABC of Attraction
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Quality's 100% Successful LMR Technique

Here it goes gentlemen! Below is the complete outline of the system I used to result in 100% closes and blast through LMR. It has not only yielded many successes for myself but, if implemented correctly, has proven effect in deflowering virgins and very sexually conservative and reserved girls. It has also helped many other men to blast through LMR and even lose their virginity. This knowledge is very powerful gentlemen. With great power comes great responsibility. So use it wisely and have fun. I want pictures and footage in return! :D



The Right Mindset

Assuming that you got logistics in line and have some sexual tension/framing, you should start with the pre-emptive LMR techniques. Remember, all of this is done under the frame of “I am an extremely sexual but not needy confident man and I will give her the best sex in her life. I know she wants me bad, but she is only putting up resistance to not be seen as a slut and no matter what she says or does, deep down, she wants sex more than I do and deeply desires a man who understands that and brings it out of her.” This frame is crucial and extremely important for this to work and have consistent successes. Remember, it’s the man’s responsibility to escalate and the women’s responsibility to resist. There have been numerous occasions after I bagged a woman that gave me 20 rounds of LMR and all the excuses in the book, resisting everything from the kiss close to the anal close, that she wishes all men understood women’s sexuality and persisted a little more rather than be such wusses but at the same time, not make her feel like a slut and let the responsibility fall on the guy’s hands.



The LMR War

I like to see LMR as war. It is a battle of who has the strongest frame/mindset that wins. Now with any battle the one that comes in the most prepared will have the greater advantage. So mastering these LMR tactics and techniques will definitely add arsenal to your artillery.



The famous quote “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure” could be related by the better your pre-emptive LMR is, the less battle field arsenal you will have to use. In any war, the battle should be easy. It shouldn’t be hard. What is hard is the preparation, practice and training. The preliminary work. The better you train before the fight, the easier the fight will be. So gentlemen, master the pre-emptive LMR techniques.



Women’s Arousal and Inhibition Ratio

Whether you have sex or get into an LMR Battle with her comes down to two factors, how arousable she is and how high her inhibitions are. Say on a scale from 1-10 (10 being highest) she has a 1 arousability factor and a 10 inhibition factor, then be prepared to go through 100 rounds of LMR with a side of blue balls. But if she has an arousability of 7 and inhibition of 5, giving her a drink will drop the inhibitions a few notches and makes it easier to dip your spring roll inside her extra fishy fish sauce. The Quality’s Pre-Emptive LMR Technique below will allow for both. It will arouse her conscious and subconscious and disarm her inhibitions which, if done properly, will provide a great chance for success. So keep this ratio in mind when you are gaming a girl.



Pre-Emptive LMR

-Happiest when she follows her heart

-What happens tonight will be my fault, what doesn’t happen will be yours

-Future projections and pair bonding

-Live in the moment and don’t hesitate when it feels right

-Style’s 100% Perfect Girl story

-Quality’s Soulmate Routine (Check out blog for more details)

-Biggest regrets in life are the things that you could have done but did not do

-That you never kiss and tell

-Strawberry Fields (Captain Jack has a money version of this captainjackpua.blogspot.com)

-That you are not psycho and will not stalk her

-That you won’t judge her

-That her sleeping with you will not jeopardize her chances of a relationship with you

-That you desire a woman who is sexual and not a prude. And you are turned off of sexual prudes

-That you encourage and embrace a women’s sexuality because of how important it is in life

-Quality’s Dining experience routine (Sexual NLP routine) (Check out blog for more details)

-Riker’s 3 rules

-Always use protection and practice safe sex

-It’s gotta be mutual

-It’s gotta be something you won’t regret but are happy with



Battle field LMR

Psychological

-Dirty talk (Whisper in her ears. Deep, slow, airy voice)

-Moaning and groaning

-Describe how she/you feel/smell/look

-How sexy/beautiful/hot she is

-How much you/her wants it

-How good it feels to you/her

-How turned on/horny you/her is

-Positive reward when she complies or does something you like

-Role Playing

-How bad/naughty she is

-Little sex slave routine

-Little girl



-Role Reversal

-We shouldn’t be doing this

-This is so bad

-We need to stop/slow down

-I want you to respect me in the morning



-Handling resistance

-Pace and lead

-Agree and reframe

-Freeze outs





Physical

-Dominance

-APB’s Hot/Cold

-Quality’s Sexual Tension and Dominance combo (Check out blog for more details)

-Quality’s Sexual Escalation Ladder (Check out blog for more details)

-Quality’s concept of Escalation stimulation (Check out blog for more details)

-Quality’s concept of Escalation softeners (Check out blog for more details)

-Sexual kissing/foreplay

-Licking/biting/sucking

-Face/ear/neck/back of head

-Body –Frontal

-Body –Back

-Erogenous zones –How to stimulate

-Dry humping

-Quality’s Pants LMR Technique (Check out blog for more details)

-Quality’s Bra LMR Technique (Check out blog for more details)

-Oral sex over the panties

-Quality’s Vaginal fingering technique (Check out blog for more details)

-Oral sex

-Masterbate in front of her



Post sex follow-up

Emotional talk/positive appreciation and encouragement

Warm towel cleanup

Future Projection/Pair bonding

Next day follow-up text/call



Feel free to ask me any questions and visit my blog (qualitypua.blogspot.com) for updates and clarification. I also offer phone consultation if you want me explain or elaborate the techniques and how to apply it. If you are an APB Alumni, ask for the Discounted Alumni Rate.

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Quality's Phone Consultation Testimonial

Phone Consultation Testimonial from Student from New York:

All I have to say is that the phone consultation is something that really sets APB’s bootcamp apart from all those other programs out there. I mean, who else is going to give you that kind of personalized attention before you even start the program? And Quality is one of the wisest guys out there when it comes to this stuff. He was able to answer any question I could think of. Thing is- he actually cares to answer your questions- it’s not like he’s just waiting for the time to run out.

Getting to the actual phone call- Quality is a cool bro who really takes the time to assess where you’re at and what areas you might need help in. It started off as a sort of diagnostic where Quality asked what my sticking points were and where I might need some help. I mentioned that I was new to the community, so he basically had to go through everything with me. He really took the time to go through the ABC’s of Attraction system with me step by step, which was helpful going into the bootcamp because it gave me an overview of what I was going to learn and how everything fit together. It also allowed me to see where I might need to spend my time going over sticking points.

For me specifically, escalation and closing are especially difficult. Quality was able to show me a few pointers and techniques to really escalate the kino and finally extract the girls.

My phone call went over an hour, and Quality really took the time to answer my questions. I was only able to do one day of the bootcamp this time, but the personal attention I got from the coaches, starting with the phone consultation, was one of the main reasons for signing up IMMEDIATELY to do the next bootcamp.

I had to give a shout out to Quality for the awesome advice and attention- sorry this report is coming so late bro!

Having Approach Standards!!!

We have heard over and over again that qualification is the key to getting the girl. Qualifying her with your standards will filter out the ones that are worth your time, energy and efforts.

Women with traits like passion, class, care, beauty, etc is desired by all. Importance of these traits can vary from one person to another. If we were to have standards for women we date, which we should be qualifying them by, shouldn’t we be doing that to the people we talk to as well? If they don’t meet our standards during the initial conversation, it is a very slim chance that they will meet our standards for relationships.

The worst thing is to try to plow and take abuse, resistance or objects from someone who is not worth our time. Too much of these encounters will definitely take its toll on our inner game. This doesn’t mean we eject after she presents a little resistance either. When you know you did all that you can and she still has resistance, it maybe a good idea to cut your losses and move on. I notice when I call a women out for their bad behavior, and her initial impression was bad, it gets her to reopen me later. Saying things like “I was just being social and having some fun; but if you can’t be friendly than I’ll just get back to my friends. It was a pleasure.”

When I do an approach, I go in with a frame that I am probably the most interesting person that she will ever meet. My personal goal in life is to leave everyone better than I found them. And if she passes my prescreening, then she has more game time with me to discover how awesome of a person I am. If she doesn’t meet my standards in a person I converse with, then I don’t want her in my life. I do however give her several chances (by plowing) and if she still doesn’t see it, then it’s her lost. With that frame, you could easily brush off any rejection or non compliance and find someone else who will appreciate who you are. What are my standards?

1. Someone who is positive and friendly
2. Someone who has a good sense of humor and knows how to laugh.
3. Someone who is polite and have manners.
4. Someone who can communicate and carry a conversation.

Women prescreen us in so many ways during the initial conversation and throughout. But part of being the prize is to take the controls, prescreen and qualify them before they do you. That’s why having standards not only with the women you date, but with the women you choose to talk to will make you more congruent to being someone of higher value and someone who truly is the prize.

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ABC of Attraction
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Student DHV Story Critique

Hi Quality et. al,

On our phone consultation, you said I should do some preparation before heading out to Vegas on Nov 2nd. A big part of it was creating material for stories. Well, here's what I came up with. I'm not quite sure how I can turn everything into DHV, how much of it is interesting, or how to put it all together to make it flow. But this is the kind of stuff that interests me and what a big part of my life is about or just interesting stuff that happened in my life. As you suggested, these are just bullet points. I could talk for hours on the stuff below and I have before. But not everyone finds it interesting. Some people find it very interesting. Others would be bored.



Leon,

Good job on the prompt response. One more thing that I would like for you to do is put the attraction switch label on each story and tell me when you think each story is best told. I.e. Attraction, Comfort, etc since you weren't too familiar with the attraction switches. This will get you in the habit of being able to identify your stories with the attraction switches and when to tell them.

Also, some of the stories are kind of dry and will need revamping. We will work on these in the bootcamp. Delivery is also key! I will break down each story if I can find the time. Here is an example of one.... Putting in all the work before the bootcamp will definately pay off when you are in the field!

Quote:

Story 4 - Cycling
- After the .com bust, I quit my job and started living the lifestyle of a pro cyclist for almost 4 years. I did well enough during the .com boom to afford to do this. It's not as glamours as it sounds. Basically eat, sleep, train, repeat. Never got to be as fast as the Pro's, but I got pretty damm fast. I could get a top 20 finish in some of the largest amateur races in my category and often won/placed in local races. Traveled around the northeast doing some of the biggest amateur races in the region. I did this to see how far I push my body physically.


Pluses
* Shows that you made good money before.
* Adventurous and bold enough to jump careers
* Shows Passion and Drive
* Lots of travels and experiences

Minus
* May comes off as bragging or trying too hard.
* Doesn't promote emotions
* Is not interesting to someone who doesn't have a passion for biking
* Hard to relate
* Dry

Suggestions
Tell a story and evoke a lot of emotions. Maybe put down a big race and how nervous you felt. Maybe say at one point you thought about quitting but pushed yourself hard from inside and because of that, was able to place in the top 20. Add twists and turns in the story. Say that someone bumped into you and made you fall loosing precious time. Add more conflict by shows that you injured your leg on the fall and wanted to quit etc. And tell her how it felt to finally cross the finish line. and what a feeling of accomplishment it was. Tell her how your friends were there cheering for you and how they all hugged you at the end and lifted you up on their shoulders to parade. Say one of your home girls handed you some flowers. Get the picture? Just adding these elements into your story makes it a much more interesting story. Add a punch line or moral to the story. I.e. "And I realized that no matter how tough it gets, I'm a fighter inside and my heart will never forgive me if I ever quit" etc.



~Quality - Asian Playboy Intern Instructor
ABC of Attraction
qualitypua.blogspot.com

Phone Testimonial by Playa

So I was feeling bummed out after my first phone consult cos well, I realised I sucked big time ... I was discouraged and wanted to pull out ... I was wallowing in my self pity and nursing my inner wuss ... But something happened ...

I was queueing up to board the bus when this white woman in her 30s-40s comes up beside me, literally pushes me away and cuts me ... I was like WTF ... so I board the bus fuming cos like that was so just plain rude ... I sat down and I was pissed but didn't wanna say anything ... then I remembered Quality's words ... You sound like a real timid guy, a real nice guy and you let people step over you all the time ....

That hit me real hard at that time and I was like ... No, I am not going to accept 2nd rate behavior from others .... I walked over to her and I looked her straight in the eye and said "Hey, you know what, the way you pushed me just now, it was not too nice" ... then she mumbled something in a soft voice and I just walked away ... I knew she understood where I was coming from .... Quality later told me what I said was rude and I could have said it in a more social way but he was glad I stood up for myself ...

After that I was on fire ... I'm not really sure if timid is the right word to describe me but yes I am nice ... way too nice .... and that's why I developed a real tough exterior ... I'm from Singapore and I'm kinda rough on the edges ... but unfortunately, my "toughness" constantly makes me come off as rude and standoffish in the American culture ... it's an overcompensation ... when I learnt about David D's cocky and funny ... I just ended up being cocky ... not really funny ... so I became this arrogant prick but well many girls in Singapore loved it and of course I bombed big time in America cos I mistook what I experienced back home for real success ...

I don't wanna be an arrogant prick ... I just wanna be badass ...

So when Quality found out I was discouraged, he contacted me and this guy is the best ... he is like the big bro I never had and I really look up to him ... He encouraged me and helped me along ... I'm a newbie ... like seriously new and well maybe you say that well it's cos I paid for the bootcamp that's why he's so nice to me ... maybe, but look ... money doesn't buy you everything ... I don't think he earns much from this and he could have just said, this guy is a whiney loser let's give him his money back and let him wallow in his self pity ... they probably could have found someone else to take the bc in my place and saved them the agony of helping a newbie out but Quality didn't ... He didn't give up on me ...

The guys at APB, they are real brothers ... I PMed Mack, Gatsby and Jewelz when I felt like shit and they replied ... which other community do you get people this tight? Bear in mind, they haven't even met me yet ...

You guys rock!

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Playa
Brick walls are there for you to show your dedication .....

Value and Attraction....Another way to look at it!

Imagine a high school cheerleader who was told by 3 guys that they have a crush on her. A dorky guy, an average guy, and a jock.

She would never consider the dorky guy since he has no value to her. For example, he doesn't fit in the socially acceptable norms of fashion and is usually socially awkward. So for her to date him will take away value from her. Since social value is extremely important to women, she will rule him out as a potential mate.

The average guy, may fit in, but unless he stands out someway in personality, or is a PUA, he probably will not add much value to her. Therefore, unless he games hard or has a lot of game time with her, she won't feel attracted to him. He also has a high risk of be LJBF'd.
Now the jock, when he tells her he likes her, she puts on her relationship consideration glasses and gets almost instant attraction. That's because he is what to be considered as someone of high value in her high school world. Therefore, being his mate will allow her to inherit and combine those values with hers.

So when value is already established, attraction happens really quickly, but only if you take advantage of the small window. If not, you will be thrown into the friend zone. That's why SOI and escalations are key, but it needs to be done at the right times.
How this translates into pickup is this. When you meet someone, and you establish value, it builds attraction. But it is just general platonic attraction until you provide an SOI at the right times when you feel that the general attraction is at it's peak. Then an SOI at this point will open the flood gates to having rapid attraction. I noticed personally, after my debriefs with my girls, that they realized they were attracted when I gave me IOI's or SOI's. When someone of high value is intested in you, you are naturally more attracted to them. Especially if their value is of important to you.

It's when the jock tells the cheerleader he likes her. Value is already there. If she pairs up with him, she will have instant value transfer which builds instant attraction. You can imagine how many times the cheerleader screams and yells with excitment when she finds out the jock likes her rather than cringe with disgust when she finds out the geek likes her. See the difference? Value vs no value. Value and attraction goes hand in hand. Value has to be there before there could be any attraction. Period!

Some key points about value is that value could be subjective. A person who can dances will have value to someone who admires dancing, but has no value to someone who doesn't care for dancing. So it's good to have general DHV's that spans a broad range of subjects. But there are certain core values that are attractive to most people. Like for instance having positive energy.
People naturally gravitate to things that makes them feel good. Someone who is positive and brings positive energy is of value to everyone. That's why when you open a set and you need to demonstrate value, a quick and easy way to do is just be positive and have positive energy. That saying that goes "Enter the set with a energy level at least the same if not higher than the set" reflects the value of positive energy and demonstrates value greatly. This is sometimes known as "The Vibe"

~Quality
Asian Playboy Intern Coach/Instructor
ABC of Attraction
abcofattraction.com
qualitypua.blogspot.com

"The Asian Playboy voted World's Greastest Asian Pickup Artist" - 2007 PUA Summit

Bootcamp Testimonial by Mack

The Lowdown on the Hoedown: an honest look at an ABC’s of attraction bootcamp
What to say about a bootcamp that is so all encompassing and so encouraging? I’ll just start at the beginning. We all have our AFC stories, I mean without them we’d never have gotten our rears in gear to learn this, so be grateful.

The coaches were so down to earth and understand you at such a deep level. They’re some of the coolest people, as well as well as some of the greatest pickup artists.
They’re going to lead the revolution of the minorities, particularly the Asians. They’re going to be unstoppable in the next few years. APB and the crew have the potential to shape a new generation of Asians and defeat the blocker mindset which has held us Asians back for so many years. Just as Martin Luther King Jr. stood in the face of racism and tyranny, so APB stands in the face of people not getting laid. Destroyer of frustrations and masturbations. Conqueror of fear and approach anxiety.

This weekend has been a blast, the crew loves what they do, and they are frikin awesome at it. Qual was the caring alpha, sociable, one of a kind DHV man, one of the coolest people to be with and hang with. Toy Machine, the low key, bad boy type, with heart. Jewelz, the Vegas socialite to end all socialites with the charisma and charm of a seductress and the flirtyness of a carefree school girl she demolished all competition. Ozzy, the bubble of positivity and joy. Seeing him light up when talking about all that we’re doing and working on, filled my heart with happiness. Johnny Wolf. Big buff asian dude, who becomes more and more of a pimp as time goes on. And The Asian Playboy. Suave, charismatic, enigmatic, godfather of the ABC’s of attraction. With such a command of his body, and tonality, and expressions, and naturalness, you’d think that you were in a movie if you saw him at work. His nature is to help and lead, but he’s no businessman, but that is exactly what makes him so special and different. I wouldn’t have traded this bootcamp experience for the world. Growing up I didn’t have much sense of brotherhood, and being the youngest in my entire family and being raised by women didn’t help either. Once you take a bootcamp, you are part of something. The fraternity, the brotherhood, the family. You are one of APB’s own, and as brothers (or sisters aka Jewelz…) you are not alone in this world. Even though the road to pickup is hard, and filled with pitfalls and heartaches with APB, you become family.

and, I still owe APB $20 for club cover and some other shit.

First Day, well we had sort of an advantage of having an extra day, but I was still a little shy. It was my first time in Vegas, I even opened up a new bank account and started transferring bits of money so I could sneak by and come to Vegas without my parents knowing. And so I was a little star struck. My first time in Vegas and I’ll be picking up chicks, nice. I walk up to the cantina, and I’m a little scared, I phone Jewelz, she shows up right behind me and freaks me out. We go into the restaurant. And there he is APB. I’m a little surprised. I don’t know how to handle the situation; he was just sitting there, not picking up chicks… that’s weird… I thought we’re supposed to be picking up 24/7… so then all the others arrive. Sight, Yellowcab, Sexual chocolate, Ozzy, Johnny, Adamm, Rumble… my two fellow bootcamp attendees. My first impression of APB was that he was like a crouching tiger, not really up to much, but I could feel his aura emanating from within. The other bootcamp attendees were all just being social and cool, while I, have trouble with that, and these guys were also like all 20yrs older than me. My first impression of sight was “huh, he’s white… and good looking too… wonder what’s up…” We hit up the voodoo club or whatever and I’m like cool, this is my second time in a club, nice… umm… what do I do? Most of the guys were just chillin and having a good time, I hear sexual chocolate got a bj, so kudos to him. I opened up a lone wolf, and with Qual’s patented surefire opener and she just like grabbed me, and I was a little confused. Ended up isolating, (took a while though) but she left later with her friend to go to the bathroom. She asked me how old I was, which, along with “Am I on camera?” would be the two lines that would haunt me for the rest of the bootcamp.

Day 1, ahh, the goodies all come out. Nice refresher of the pickup structure for me, except hearing it like really helped solidify it, but even more important is individualized attention. Really when it comes down to it going to a bootcamp vs reading/watching pickup is like the difference between watching porn and actually having sex. It helps having head knowledge, but if you don’t know where the fuck to stick it in, not much is gonna happen, even if you can draw the female anatomy blindfolded. So I learned and learned, and then they saw my emo shoes and they were like “umm… are you wearing that tonite? Okay, we need to get you some boots.” We gear up and go. I’m a little scared, but I’m getting into state. I go and approach. I hook a HB black, Johnny keeps saying she’s extremely hot, but it was so dark in there and I really wasn’t even caring what the fuck she looked like, as long as she was a woman, so I chat her up, spike buying temperature and all that, but I remained oblivious to the fact that she was lovin it and run out of material and she leaves. I approach a 3 set but then one of the girls are like “You are busted! That is so Pickup Artist! (the VH1 show, just in case any of you guys live in a cave or something lol) And I’m done. Later I approach a 2 set outside of the club, APB sends Rumble in, and he pretty much messes everything up. I get so upset I kick him in the ass, not hard, but almost like a strong tap. At this Adamm gets like all Korean father on me and starts telling me that it’s not okay and shit, and I’m like WTF man, I didn’t actually try to hurt him. I could tell from that point that we weren’t gonna really get along, actually from the first time I talked to him I could tell we weren’t gonna get along. This might be a little harsh, but after Adamms little post about APB I feel I have the right to tell my honest opinions about everything. He has quite a bit of ego, which helps in his dominating a classroom, but in a learning environment, where he is the student he seems to have a hard time. But the best part came when Rumble had two Aussie girls, so I frikin go in and wing (the right way) but end up AMOGing him a little, (I’d later learn I do that, cus of my lack of social experience and sense of family). His girl wants to take him to their room to “show him their stamp collection” and so they start to leave and I’m like “Fuck! I ain’t gonna let you have those two girls all by yourself bitch!” and I (very AFCish) tag along, and at this point, Rumble is dominating everything, but he fumbles, and we lose the two set, but it was pretty fun all in all.

Day 2Ahh, day 2. The day I pull a 40 yr old HB8 from Canada (who claimed to be 33) into her hotel room. Now because of that I’m getting really attracted to those milfs, or cougars, as some of them like to call themselves. Actually in San Fran there is a secret society of MILF pickup artists called the Mrs. Robinson society, maybe one day I’ll meet some and we’ll seduce each other haha. Anywhos, I can’t remember which day we do interactive exercises, but I feel really shy about it all, and I have a hard time improving. Adamm made the funniest improv stories and made the funniest faces in the exercises, so kudos to him for that. I was kinda stilted… but I got a little better, but the bootcamp exercises gave me a foundation for the work I need to do, so that’s great. We go to a spiffy club, lots of hot girls, and we get right to work. I have a hard time just chillin. When I went into the club, I just came to life, and I started developing my own unique body language, which Johnny would later call “very playerish” and also deem me as being “the epitomy of the social robot” but anyways, that aside, I have some fun, but I’m also a little tryhard. I open sets, some go well, others go bad. I try and stop a moving set, which fails, but it was worth a try. As I’m going through my stages of tiredness and grief at my losses, APB sends Qual in to give me personalized attention. He takes me under his wing, and gives me a shitty direct opener to use, which failed like every time, but it was still fun anyway. So I just go super direct, I use the “I think you’re beautiful” opener. By this time, it’s like 1:30 and I’m determined to not get blown out, so I approach a lone wolf, who looked really dizzy, and go direct, and even though she has distant body lang, and everything, I think “you are GOING to feel attracted to me!” and keep going, and what do you know… it worked! I pull her back into our ultra cool vip section, but bump into a big bad Mexican guy and he wants to fight or something, I try to apologize, but he I guess he no comprendo ingles, so I just kind of walk away, cus I know Qual’s got my back. I dance waaayyyy hardcore with her, basically having sex with her freaky style, but when the dance was finished, she just left. Then I realized that I failed to apply the cat string theory… I let her have too much, I was too aggressive and she realized that I wanted to have sex with her and to her, that was enough, I gave her too much and she didn’t see the point. I retreat back to our guarded fortress and plop down.

Downtrodden, confused and defeated. I look to APB for any sign of compassion, but all I get from him is “It’s 2’o clock, you’re on your own now, make something happen.” I’m like What the Fuckin Fuck! Fuck you, and I just left and angrily sought a prey. I see one! . It was a picture perfect approach. I had already social proofed the room by freaking with Jewelz and having great interactions with other people in the club. I remember seeing this really hot girl standing by the bar so I went to approach, then all of a sudden a fat fugly girl is talking to her, 2 set, then as I'm about to open ms. fugly I see this really snazzy lookin black dude in a white suit and I complement him on it, I really did think it was cool, and then he said something about seeing me in the dance floor or something and he liked me so he told me to have fun with the girl or something, then he takes the fugly, who turned out to be his girlfriend (go figure) and I open the set. I go direct, it blasts open.

I befriend yet another friend of hers and then when all is going well the fugly comes back and says that she has to go to the bathroom. Bells go off in my head and I immediately tell her that I love the way she dances, she lights up like a christmas tree and tells us to stay and that she'll be right back. Perfect. Her other friend waves me over and tells me to take good care of her friend. At this point I'm thinkin, oh yeah, I'm gettin laid tonite. I extract her, and she asks if we're coming back and I'm like hell no. But then I quickly change my answer when I see her hesitation, I tell her, yeah of course we're coming back... Everything went well, we were vibing, I read her palm in the cab and she loved it, she later told me it was completely true, which was awesome, and the cab driver even tried to read her palm after we arrived at her hotel. She was such a sweet girl, but I didn't know how to counter the LMR and the age thing, and thoughout the bootcamp I was too aggressive, need to work on my push pull... and so alarms went off in her head. So all I could do was kiss close this hottie that I pulled in less than 10 minutes from the cold approach.

Day 3: Graduation!The life of a pickup artist. Here I come. We finish up on the lectures, and we don’t go shopping because we’re all pretty well dressed. I think Adamm had the best fashion of the students. I don’t do so well. But I begin to see the matrix. I amoged WAYYY too much and these two AFC’s even called in a bouncer to tell me to leave their table cus they didn’t want to themselves, so I just leave… cus the bouncer looked like a mix between Mike Tyson and Mr. T. Opening sets was easy now. I have good attraction game at this point, but very little mid-game, probably from my lack of social experience. I didn’t make anything happen that night. This was the night I had like 2 people ask me if they were on camera. I open up a 2 set, guy and girl, the girl is a sex change surgeon and the guy is a rich hobag. I chat them up for a long time, I neg her by telling her that she’s probably a man. She later repositions herself to be close to me, but I’m tired of this shit, so I just decide to do something and I ask her me “Do you know that this guy (the afc bitch) just wants to fuck you?’ her “yeah blah blah, he’s afc”me “do you want to fuck him?”her “no blah blah”me “ then come sit with me, I have a table over there, I want to get to know you a little better”her “no blah blah (while smiling)”

Maybe I should have pulled them both… I probably have horrible verbal game, but I don’t know, I can still create attraction, but I’m just not very socially experienced, What I said might have been totally out of line, so I welcome comments, but I just started getting tired of it all… so I just left. It’s 4’o clock, Rumble could have pulled a HB9 but his sexual anxiety keeps getting the best of him. As we’re leaving the hotel, APB points to a lone wolf at the slots, so I beat Adamm to it and open the set, turns out she has a bf and he comes later on, so I leave, seeing no further progress possible. Then… ahh my turn to tell the story. I see a 2 set, I open HB7tallerthanme with direct, and she’s loving it, and as I’m about to get to my totally awesome punchline, APB tells me to leave. I go frikin alpha on him because part of me thinks it’s an amog exercise, another part of me thinks, it him testing my resolve to stay in a set, another part of me is totally confused, another part of me is listening to the pussy power asking me if he’s the boss of me and telling me to tell them what I wanted them to say. And so I’m a confused mess, then APB gives me the pizza story and then I get it and I leave. He yells and screams at me, I almost get toy machine sent to jail, I don’t know what’s going on, they’res more yelling and screaming and crying. I tear up a little bit when I can see he understands me, but then I’m encouraged as he tells me I’m going to get damn good at the game, which I’m happy about, which was also repeated by every other instructor, which cheered me up quite a bit. Then stupid Jewelz and her huge breasts breaks my sunglasses with her hug of might. I’m like WTF Jewelz! These were like $2! I say bye to the boys, I’m loving all the feedback we’re getting, it’s so important. And Qual pulled a HB to her room so I was a little jealous, but at the same time I really needed to get my ass spanked by APB.

I don’t know what the bootcamp taught anyone else, but it taught me about brotherhood, and about just socializing in general and becoming a genuine man. This is going to be a crazy year for me. I’ve been studying self help and for 1 ½ years, which led me all the way to Vegas to study with the masters, now it’s time for me to really get to work on myself. The bootcamp pushed me out of my shell, and now I’m beginning to see all that is possible in me. It gave me a pushstart for my go-cart of pickup, and for that I’ll be forever grateful. And who knows, one day I’ll drive a Lamborghini.

Testimonial by APB Student

First off, I want to say that I was a little bit unsure of what toexpect out of this consultation. I thought it was going to be ascripted Q&A session that would essentially cover the basics for whatwould be needed before I take the bootcamp. I gave Quality a call andhe seemed a little busy at first but he made time to give me the hourconsultation (which actually lasted about an hour and thirty minuteslol).

Quality asked me if I was able to identify my sticking points but atfirst I wasn't really able to explain it. He asked me some really goodquestions that got me to talk about the interactions I've had withwomen which eventually lead me to see my real sticking points. I tendto be really talkative (Quality seems a little bit talkative too butthe difference is he's rocking out with all kinds of pussy and I'mnot) and he explained how what I say needs to have a purpose. He wasalso able to see that the things I say to women tend to seekvalidation.These are inner game issues and just a brief description ofwhat he was explaining to me.

I also told him that there was a certain type of woman who I alwaysseem to attract (professional, non-party type girls) and he told mehow there are 5 different types of women and how they are attracted toa particular kind of guy (and I happened to be the type that attractedthe aforementioned. His analysis of my sticking points were spot onand I had sort of a mini-epiphany right after.

Even if I didn't sign up for a bootcamp, the PERSONALIZED help that Quality gave has been much more useful than any local PUAs, shit I'veread over the Internet (I've studied this stuff online for like 5years), or person in general has given to me in a LONG time. Heexplained the process for developing a routine stack and what I canwork on before I go to the workshop.

Quality was very attentive towhat I had to say and made an effort to answer it as best as he could.I had a lot of questions and he seemed pretty patient in answering allof them.
I think I got him off tangent a few times but it was great because wewould talk about some shit that really gave me a sense of who he is asa person. If he really didn't care about my progress or where I wouldlike to be he probably wouldn't have took the time to converse withme. The whole conversation wasn't just business and I could tell fromthe way he talked about ABCs of Attraction that he really believes inwhat he's doing.

Quality even told me the story (in an entertaining fashion) of hisfield report in Vegas where he winged for someone (but ditched theobstacle to get some Venezuelan pussy for himself...in which theobstacle came back to cockblock the guy he was winging... OUCH! ohwell...the guy he was winging shouldve planned for that better!).Through Quality's story I was able to understand his belief system bythe way he would talk about certain aspects of a story. He was veryconfident and sure of himself.

Overall this was a great experience. If this was just a consultation,I wonder what the bootcamp is gonna by like. And Quality...thanks forall the help bro... soon enough I'LL BE giving YOU tips! JUST KIDDING.You already rock...I'll do everything you told me to do. I won't letyou down!

-Andrew, San Francisco